Do
you remember the story, The Little Engine That Could, a classic American
folktale written in 1930 by Watty Piper, the pen name of Arnold Munk. In the
story, the long train must carry a heavy load over the mountain. The work was
hard and mostly an independent function. Do you think the long train thought about
quitting?
One
day the long train broke down and couldn’t haul her load over the mountain. Other
large and strong locomotives weren’t willing to help the long train. They were
built for this function but, for a variety of reasons, felt this work was beneath
them, didn’t need done by them, or, perhaps said, it’s not my problem. But
enter the small engine, not built for the task, but who agrees to try. Despite
overwhelming odds, the little engine states her intention, “I think I can; I
think I can; I think I can” and successfully pulls the load over the mountain. And
by the end of the story, the little engine changed her thinking to “I thought I
could; I thought I could; I thought I could!”
Over the past few years at work, have you felt like the
long train? Were you convinced your only path forward was to quit (the great
resignation) or did you disengage at work and perform your job at a basic level
(quiet quitting)? Lesley Alderman, a psychotherapist,
provides other suggestions for reconnecting at work, closely linked to the
moral of The Little Engine that Could story. Alderman coined a new term, quiet
thriving, advocating for small changes at work that allow you to reset your
mindset and regain some control. (Washington Post December 2022)
Can you see how the long train and little engine could use
these actions as a means to quiet thriving at work?
Focus on what is going right instead of wrong. Find
something that is good about today.
- The long train could be disgusted that none of
the strong trains will help. Imagine the talk the long train would share about
the strong trains to anyone who would listen.
- But, what if the long train focused on the
generosity of the little engine and her willingness to help? How might this
story be different than that for the strong trains? Generosity and gratitude
are mood boosters and change your frame of reference.
Cultivate a best friend at work.
- The long train now has a best friend at work. She
will never forget how the little engine agreed to try despite the challenge.
- Friends at work support each other and offer a
hand when needed. Imagine the difference in your satisfaction and engagement at
work if someone has your back.
Join a group or start a group.
- Imagine the opportunities if a few locomotives formed
a team or group to share their strengths and welcome each other. A sense of
belonging is a powerful way to refuel both individually and together as a team.
Set intentions instead of goals. Intentions are
focused on the present while goals are focused on the future.
- Take small steps today in your journey. I think I can, the little engine’s intention,
provided her the confidence to try harder and move the long train. Positive
self-talk can be the difference in success or failure, satisfaction or discontent,
and engagement or detachment.
- With intentions, you can establish what you
might do today or this week to shift your mindset or jump-start your career
plan.
- Intentions are also gentler than goals. They are
not “judged” as met or not met. They allow you a bit more freedom to explore.
Are
you ready to take the little engine’s intention — I think I can? What steps
might you take to reengage and refuel moving towards quiet thriving while you
intentionally explore your job and/or career pathway?